#HHOTD – How Was This Black Woman Able To Make Her Graduation Photo A Complete Embarrassment? (Video & Photo)
by Tj Sotomayor June 8, 2014 162 commentsIts Gotta Be The Chemicals
Here it is, Graduation day and everyone is there to see you graduate. You have friends, family and scores of people who want to see you do nothing but good things not only today but in your near future as well. They only want to make sure that everything in your life works in your favor.
And there you are. Happy, smiling taking a photo showing nothing but pride, so why the hell is Tommy Sotomayor having a problem with this? Well, I wasnt the one who saw it but the man below saw it and when he saw it, he sent me this tweet!
@Tjsotomayor Look at this nonsense! Only black women continue to find ways to embarrass themselves. pic.twitter.com/n5ag3uLGQd
— Robert Lincoln (@lincolnre1216) June 8, 2014
Holy Crap on a Cracker! (All of my penny fans from Big Bang got that joke)
I have no idea who is worse, the woman who took the photo or the woman who is in the photo. Everyday it seems seriously black women are finding new and more innovative ways to make theme selves look like the garbage pail kids women of the world. Like every other race is the cabbage patch kids and black women are the garbage pail kids and whats even worse than that, they are loving the attention even if it is negative.
Now this black woman is the average dark skin chick. Cant tell her nothing, head full of spiral curls and a baby talking about how educated she is.
Yeah yeah, I know its gonna piss you off but dont you think its funny how this works that more people are offended by what I say than what they do? Priorities people.. get them right!
This woman couldnt even have a bottle prepared for this baby so you wouldnt have to breast feed it. Nope, this is how you came to the graduation. But then again, why are you at a college school graduation with a head full of someone elses hair and a baby? If you had any common sense at all neither would have happened.
But I know what many of you are saying, well at least she is graduating and actually I am with you because its better that she dont compound a mistake with another but thats the problem, when it comes to black women neither of these things is a mistake. You know the having the baby and the having someone take a photo of you with the baby breast feeding from you.
See black women are so desperate for DNA (D*ck N Attention) that they know they are going to get a response like this with a lot of negative backlash but that doesnt matter to them. As long as you are talking about black females they dont care what they had to do to get you talking. Sorry but this is why I steer clear of them because actions like this speaks volumes about the persons character and the majority of todays females are Attention Whores, black ones have just made it an artform of disgusting proportions!
**PS, SINCE THE ETHER HAS BEEN REQUESTED THEN YES, I WILL DO IT!***
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oh my fukn goodness lmfao! MAKE IT STOP!!
I’ve seen people breast feed in more “inappropriate” places than this. While I preferred to pump for my child, some people don’t believe in using unnatural devices such as bottles when they breast feed. Some children who have issues latching have trouble
Switching back and forth between human nipples and synthetic. Why do I know this? My daughter was severely premature and I had to consult a lactation specialist that recommended I choose only one method since my daughter wouldn’t latch to the breast. I chose to give her the nutrients of breast milk, but stick to the bottle. If you would like to see some examples of questionable breast feeding practices, here are some http://www.oddee.com/item_98815.aspx – enjoy.
You are comparing a college student to a professional model!? That why you stupid black bitches will never understand! One was in public, one was in private. Compare & contrast since you are so “edumacated”!!!
where the hell are the comments.. stop leaving comments on my videos geeze
Don’t be mad cause people love your videos, Sotobabe. I comment on them all the time. Be happy about it that we love your message, regardless of where we view. Take care dear.
Who the hell is this guy. hey dude find yourself another forum…we are working here. wow the fraudulent verve of folk.
It makes a difference to me whether this is a high school graduation or a college graduation.
Assuming it is a college graduation, the graduating Mom is older… perhaps married… and really has her life together.
Although it may seem strange to have a breastfeeding baby at this moment, that is the reality for breastfeeding Moms. Mothers are now being instructed to feed immediately on demand, anytime, anywhere.
Breast is best… lol 🙂
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Garbage Pail Kids?! OMG! I had a ton of those cards.
Yeah but I feel sorry for that baby and I hope she gets rid of that photo before the baby gets older so she never sees it.
I encourage breast feeding wherever/whenever, BUT proper ettiquite would be to drape something over yourself, just out of respect and not to make others uncomfortable. Full nipple is just not necessary unless your oblivious to or uncaring of others feelings…imo.
FUK THIS SHYYT TOMMY U BETTER EATHER THIS GOT DAMM HAIR HAT IF YOU DONT DO NONTHING ELSE!!
J.GRAY PEACE. ..
Where’s the ether beat, I hear you. “Dunnat, dun dun dunnat,….”
LOL!!!
Umm, extremely unnacceptable..
Agree with (summer siravo) she should have been draped to not expose so much of her breast.
I almost shit my pants when I saw the full photo, I did a double take. What the hell, for Christs sakes have some Goddamn decency. This is bullshit. I don’t wanna hear breastfeeding blah blah blechhh! I did it. But have some manners, just…I don’t know, DECENCY!
Some of these comments up in here are missing the point, anyways this is what happens when society rewards the bad behavior of women and its only gonna get worst.
I swear dna is in full effect right here! What was wrong with pumping them juggs before the ceremony and letting a family member feed the baby? She is the poster child for “A Ratchet America”!
I think this might be the lady in question…https://www.facebook.com/KTDaRockStar
I saw that hair hats face book page bitch had her lips pushed out why these bitches so happy with them hair hats on?
Ok….it’s on my nerves now, I’m ready to ether some of my follow Sotomayor fans. Mostly I’m guessing of the male persuasion or whateva– Que dat funkin beat– ‘Dun-dun-dunt’ One big fat F U to all the NASTY ney sayers! Breasts are not the enemy they nourish and protect a child. That is their PURPOSE not your pleasure. Fact: this woman accomplished what alot of the women you make your ‘seed tenders’ aka baby mamas don’t—graduation so Congrats! Fact: Her baby was hungry and she feed it, so many don’t and she’s putting her baby first not attaching her to the back of her graduation gown (damned if you do, damned if you don’t to the judgemental but no account huh?) Fact: she could have chosen a better method to cover her modesty and make other people feel comfortable but who are they—they don’t know her struggle and I’d bet money they don’t help so fug ’em. ….I bet if those same beautiful, boutiful milk chocolat brown boobs showed up in your email, on your phone or at some black freak/biker/troller/ethnic “pride” parade….you wouldn’t be so damn opposed now wood yah black man???? You wanna know what’s the enemy? A D*CK that’s capable of creating seeds, that’s attached to an idiot too dumb to take proper precautions; to either shut it down or take care of what it creates. And all those ‘Hair Hat’ bullies please do us all a favor SHUT THE FUNK UP!!!! Why are YOU so mad??? Are you willing to go out and do what it takes to help a black woman maintain natural hair since you love to pretend that’s your beef??? You gonna go twist her dreads show up at her house to grease and braid her hair…..you wanna chip in on some sisterlocks ™???? You have so much hate that I’m suspecting it’s coming from another place known as LamesLand. Lousy Ass Males Essentially Simpim’ but don’t get yah thirst quenched….It’s about making a woman realize that she’s beautiful in her own skin not about hateful sh*t get. Get over it you past your prime and the chickens that use to cluck for you (or never did) ain’t giving a funk–don’t be mad 🙂 OOOOHHHHH And what’s offense is knowing that nothing stands between you and some mans smelly sweaty nasty ASS CRACK (that feeds and nourishes no one) but a thin worn piece of cotton fabric drawers……PULL UP F-IN PANTS UP maybe then common sense will happen— peace
Shut bitch!! Only a dumb respectfull dumb black saggy tit hore would take that photo and feel great about it that bitch coulda got a bottle and fed that baby thats so dumb kinda like u suckin my dick in public. .know u have been eatherd u dumb ass bitch! !
I can tell that you’re well educated, with a lot of things to accomplish and business to handle by your rapid reply….unfortunately I don’t have time to indulge you…..it’s called living a life….and yeah I’m a Baaaaad bad bitch the kind you’ll likely never have the pleasure of knowing for sure 😉
Just breastfeed in private, that’s all we asking, the baby can wait.
Show some fukcing modesty
Black people in general thirst for attention. Attention is worth more to blacks than money, happiness, food, water, clothing, and shelter. Black people just want to be seen by anyone. Whether it’s a positive reaction or negative one, just look at me, PLEASE!!! We have no shame anymore and that doesn’t just go for black people, this goes for America in general.
“Look at me, just look at me, someone please just look at me.” I’m turning 24 in a month, and it’s been said that only 10 percent of black people are worth a damn. From my experience I believe that number is too kind. Well lady, we’re all looking at you, and you got us talking. You got what you wanted.
I was wondering why blacks have a staring problem
If it’s such a damn horror then go protest Rumor Willis for walking around NYC completely topless all day shopping and -ish. AND not to nourish another soul.,…all because Instagram frowns upon celebrity nudity and she wanted to fight for her right to just have them out—and post them simply because being topless in public is not illegal there. Oh and yo girl Rihanna backed her up….WHERE’S THE OUTRAGE?????
That’s a very good question LcClark. Where is the outrage over this display of ratchetness?
Sorry I have to correct myself…it’s actually “Die Hard” and Demi’s middle child Scout Willis that strolled around topless all day in NYC (for DNA???) in protest of instagrams anti nudity policy last. Already a 2 time offender being kicked off, she insists on her right to bare t*ts….Take your outrage to her cute lil hashtag ‘freethenipple’….I’m gonna go grow a garden while I wait for that outrage……
I’m totally speechless. This young lady had plenty of time to prepare a bottle for her baby before her graduation. This is just another example of black people being made fun of and taken seriously. Well she got what she wanted “ATTENTION” SMH.
You mean not taken seriously .
wth is this an attack on breastfeeding!! why is this wrong and if this is wrong why arent you getting on the white women who takes pictures breastfeeding! BREASTFEEDING IS BEAUTIFUL!! I look down on a mother who wouldn’t feed her child because society says this isn’t the right time or place… WAKE UP breastfeeding is beautiful and I applaud this young black queen despite all the negative backlash… has society brainwashed you all so much that a natural act of nurture is viewed so negatively!!?? please stop the madness and degradation and build up your black counterparts instead of tearing them down… that is all thank you
Breast feeding is good but most women don’t take pictures of themselves doing it then post in online.
taking a picture of it doesnt make it any less good and ive posted pictures breastfeeding and i havent had any backlash
Um…… SHe has no SHAME OR MODESTY, you moron
what should she be ashamed about?
I go to the mall alot and saw women breastfeeding! there is a way to cover it! a child can feed without being exposed like this!
so sit your dumbass down
why would a woman hide herself from doing a natural act such as nourishing her child? sad to hear a woman say something like that… and its not even like she’s super exposed she has one breast out feeding her baby. you cant even see her nipple lol and i am sitting down my fellow goddess. society has warped and perverted the natural body… but what do you think breasts were made for?? women should not be ashamed of themselves that’s a form of self hatred. i hope you stop hating yourself and learn to stand up for the beauty of breastfeeding. namaste
How about RESPECT for others? Pissing is a natural act, you dont see us pissing everywhere do you? Well maybe in your hood.
How about having a kid in high school, How about exposing herself in public, NO ONE WANTS TO SEE THAT, COVER UP. All she was is an attention whore
wow breastfeeding being compared to pissing… an act of nurture vs an act of excreting waste… hmmm…. how is breastfeeding disrespectful? why does this make you so angry? is it when you see a breast it immediately arouses you because you have no control of your thoughts? do your thoughts immediately become sexual when you see a womans breast and that makes you feel ashamed because of what maybe some religion has taught you that to lust is to sin and to sin is to set your soul on the path to a place they call hell and maybe hell scares you, maybe you blame this woman for making you think lustful thoughts and thus in your mind she has helped set your self on this negative path?? my friend there are much deeper issues to why a woman breastfeeding and not hiding herself would be offensive to certain ppl. i hope you can really understand the root of why this offends you. namaste (:
It has nothing to do with “thinking lustful thoughts”, “being aroused” or “feeling ashamed” it has to do with having boundaries. After all would you and your husband have sex in front of your children; I mean how far would you carry this? Sorry but you sound like you’ve stepped out of a time machine from the 60’s. You sound like a person that accepts anything and everything as OK. In other words someone without ANY restrictions whatsoever. In other words if it feels good – DO IT.
And to answer your last question about “why this offends you”…well because those of us with some intelligence realize that extremes of thinking is dangerous. The ultra-religious zealot is just as kooky as the person who has no boundaries whatsoever, and when you get right down to it you realize something: They’re just two ends of the same stick!
but why were those “boundaries” created? your assumption that i go by the if it feels good – do it motto is incorrect. No i wouldn’t have sex in front of my children but that is a completely different issue lol… sex is for a grown man and woman breastfeeding is for the young child… nothing that needs privacy… do you hide yourself when you eat? Why should i hide myself from feeding my child? do you allow a misguided society to dictate everything you do? intelligence? someone with vast intelligence would not be offended by something or someone who does not have the intent to offend someone. Being offended by an act of nurture is perverted and childish.
It’s not a matter of being offended it’s a matter of doing the right thing at the right time, period, end of story. You seem to conveniently ignore the fact that children should not be exposed to a woman breastfeeding. Most people agree on that point – plain and simple! If I had a child I wouldn’t want them to be exposed to that kind of image and if you can’t see that then you’re obviously one of those Black women that Tommy is always criticizing; the kind that can’t be reasoned with, that logic fails to persuade, the kind that’s going to do what she wants – regardless! In other words – completely selfish!!!
BTW why is it misguided to follow some of the rules of society if those rules serve a purpose? If those rules are there for good reason? Sorry but intelligence has NOTHING to do with rebelling against society, or in your case going against the rules simply because YOU disagree with them. That’s not intelligence that’s someone with a monumentally deluded ego, which is what I’m picking up here…
…and brings me to closing this discussion. Since you just don’t ‘get it’ I’m bowing out and moving on. I’m not wasting any more time trying to reason with you because there IS nothing there to reason with. Soooo, the floor is yours and the microphone on! I’m outa here!!!
why shouldn’t children be “exposed” to a woman feeding her child? why would this make you so angry? does attempting to offend me make you feel better? lol what purpose does the rule play in this situation? how is feeding your baby in public selfish? lol thats selfless because regardless of how ppl view her she chooses to nourish he baby
Look, you wouldn’t walk through an airport in a speedo or, if you’re a
girl, a thong. Likewise you wouldn’t wear a business suit to the beach.
It’s the same reason you take a bath everyday so you don’t offend
people with your body odor. But it’s liberal-minded idiots like you who
have no consideration nor understanding of what commonplace decency is.
Because, sure, it’s not “wrong” to not take care of yourself, but you’ll find
yourself quickly looking silly and/or being rejected socially. Being
social is an integral part of being a healthy human – it’s essential for
survival. Because if nothing else, humans’ best attribute is their
ability to adapt. If a person rejects their environment by offending it,
they then create a separate/isolated environment that they then must
adjust to. And if you feel fine with living in smaller social circles,
just know that fewer and fewer people will miss having to deal with your
inappropriate shit.
lol im far from liberal… if nourishing my child when ever my child
needs it is “inappropriate shit” then i’ll be that i would never let the
views of others affect my ability to be the best mother i can be! and
if taking care of yourself is seen as socially silly then thats fine
too… i live my truth out loud and no one can quiet me (:
Let go on that theory, (being said with all respect too!). A child has to go potty, let them squat on the spot, because its a kid? My opinion is this, for the 10 seconds it took to snap the photo, she couldn’t hand the baby to someone? Or should we humans give up being “discreet” entirely? A child shitting and peeing anywhere turns into an adult doing the same nasty thing. Mothers always show decency and discretion when feeding. Why even wear clothes then, why hide the kooch or boob at all, by your aguement. Sex, doo-dooing are part of nature too.
ive already responded to that argument ^^^
The fact that she’s a Queen cause she’s an unwed mother (I’ll put every dime I have on that) in highschool, yet not the other girls who didn’t do that, blew me out of my chair when you said that. Tommy is right.
lol!! what!?! no one said she’s a queen because in your assumption she is unwed… she’s a queen because she was born so like every woman lol and tommy is full of self hatred… pointing out problems and never giving solutions is a symptom of a sick mind
It really doesn’t matter whether you agree with this or not. The bottom line is thinking ahead and maybe realizing this would make anyone uncomfortable. Then consideration for others around you would come into play. One might stand their ground on farting where ever they like, as it is your right to fart where ever you want. How about simple consideration for people around you?
This is one of the only things i’ve ever disagreed with Tommy on. This woman is breastfeeding her child. Something more women should do I think, so in this instance she’s not making black women look bad. Out of all these black chick you talking about on your shows she gets my full respect. This is the best example you’ve posted of a black woman being a good steward of black children. How many of these “hair hatted hooligans” do you think would even take the time to consider truly nurturing their children? Studies show that children that come from homes where at least one of the parents graduated from college are more likely to graduate from college themselves. Not to mention children who are breastfed have stronger brain development than children who were not. So if you ask me this pic is full of WIN and we should be applauding her instead of bashing her.
Look, ain’t nobody is against breastfeeding. Everyone applauds her graduating. But my question is that would you feel the same if she popped out her titty during church service to feed her baby with you and your children sitting next to her or would you ask the ushers to have her do that in private? This was a simple attention getter.
Wow, seriously? If I was asked by an usher to move because I’m breastfeeding my child in service, I would not return. Period. You need to grow up.
PS. Jesus was breastfeed.
What about fukcing modesty you asshat
Modesty is lost on alot of women and men nowadays. I’d like to know IF the father is still in the baby’s life and what he thinks about this travesty.
I could care less if Jesus was breastfed or not I can bet you Mary wasn’t posing saying “The Messiah is sucking my titty y’all look”. That’s a stupid comparison. Like I said let’s see a new mom do that in church or any other public arena and we’ll see how people respond. I have nothing against breastfeeding. It’s her decision of where she did it and posing like it’s some badge of honor. Before you issue out an insult comprehend the message first..
naw naw wait I love these “he-zues was this and he-zues was breatfed” @guest show me in the bible where Christ was breastfed. I have no issue with breastfeeding but the idea of using a graduation picture to push a point across on a pro-breastfeeding page is gonna garnish negative attention. Whether we want it to or not. Everything has a consequence
Well… I doubt they had Similac two thousand years ago so… I’m pretty certain he was breastfed.
“show me in the bible where Christ was breastfed”
Are you fucking joking? Think about what you just said and how incredibly stupid it is. 2000 years ago breast feeding was the only option. There wasn’t formula, or breast pumps. If he wasn’t breast feed then he would have starved to death. How fucking stupid can you be?
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Modesty and appropriateness is what bothers me her entire boob was showing. you would never see an arabe woman, hindi, African, Jewish, Asian women expose themselves like that. I would be horrified if that were my daughter. Breastfeeding is natural. Iam sure Jesus’s mother didnot expose herself like this girl did here in a crowd of people.
Ummm…Jesus never existed and this young “lady” is no lady. Man, this country is in the toilet.
Good! Only ignorant people dont care if they make other people uncomfortable. Be a lady. Im a gentleman and I would never scratch my crotch in church while there other people around, that would make SOMEBODY uncomfortable so I dont do that. Much less would I take my titty out to breastfeed. Its a natural thing and so is peeing, but I wouldn’t just pee anywhere , where anyone can see or hear me peeing. Have some common sense!
was it wine or water oh Mary don’t you weep.
The real question is why are we as Americans so ashamed of our naked bodies? This is funny to me really. We claim we should should save nudity for behind closed doors but yet sex is shoved down our throats in pretty much all of our advertising which causes us to be confused about our sexuality to the point where we deem women nourishing our children out in public as indecent. When don’t get me wrong titties are fun when I comes to sex, their main purpose is for the nourishment and nurturing of our children. This white male conservative view of the world needs to stop because its damaging the very fabric of our human nature.
if she were in a society/cultural event where it is the norm for people to be out and about in the buff that would be one thing or even a nudist colony that would be another, but this girl is sitting with her baby during graduation with the baby suckling her. if it were the case that no one could watch the baby for her during graduation why not pump prior to and prepare bottles and if that was not an option why not use a cloth cover.
she could have taken a pic at her graduation at anytime, why then? i could be wrong, but it doesn’t even appear that she had a nursing bra on. if i were on either side of her i would feel really uncomfortable. not by the nursing, but the spectacle. she knew the date and time of graduation in advance and if she was going to walk she could have prepared adequately. if i was a future employer i would turn her application down in a heartbeat no matter how good she looked on paper because i would feel if she could not make sound decisions for herself and her child she would be unable to do so under my employment. she wouldn’t have the chance to embarrass the company.
i hope the pic was worth it. she may as well wipe her behind with that diploma. unless she is going to be working for a company that promotes breast feeding bare no matter the surroundings she just made it that much harder to become employed and to be taken seriously.
She is touching elbows with the two people sitting next to her. That shit could have waited!
The breasts are for feeding. Maybe if she just had ’em hanging out just for the hell of it but she didn’t. They served their purpose.She was feeding her kid. Granted I think she should’ve covered up out of respect those around her BUT I think people are making a big deal out of nothing. Breasts are highly over sexualized.
This is all about preparation. That baby was at a graduation that lasted for hours so I’m quite sure she had bottles prepared for the people who was keeping it. This was deliberately done for shock value. Mature mothers take their titties, their child and go find a quiet place to nurture their child. But that’s the result of single motherhood because no husband who accept such behavior. But hey that’s me
exactly when a lady breastfeeds there is usually a blanket to cover the tit. It’s a such thing as just basic class and respect for yourself.
I remember when i first went to the US and saw black women walking about with curlers in their hair which in most countries i have been to would be looked down on..Then over the years you see them coming out in their bed clothes…for want of a better word…So slowly but slowly any sense of shared decency vanishes and these women look more raw and ugly because of it..Black Americans will take dog shit and try to style it and talk it up..and why as much as I love them where knowledge and other things are concerned when it comes to cultural standards of woman or manhood most of them are the gutter of the black world..with few rivals…When i went US my family warned me one thing you never do is marry black Americans..
I agree here man black women aren’t look down upon because they ugly it’s the Shit thy do. As you stated before add in the hair hats with the fake parts Smdh. Black males are getting a bad rap too but for the most part being bully by the law is the main issue.
Bruh..
What…?
applauding her? There is a time and place for everything. She has time for DNA she has got time to pump it out…she obviously has some kind of rational thought…she finished high school. new for a beastie I know
prepare a bottle and have it ready for the child, and have respect for the other people at the graduation.
There are things like breast pumps for when you know your going to be out and you can still give your child breast milk but in a bottle. This is not the place to pull out your breast and she could have at least pulled a blanket over. I’m all for breast feeding but their is a proper way of doing it, and to add that goes for all women no matter what the race maybe.
I can’t get too upset about this. I wouldn’t want to take a picture with my breast hanging out, and when I nursed my son I had a pretty shawl that I would drape over my shoulder when feeding in public, but if she is comfortable with this, then good for her. Sometimes, Tommy, you find fault in the most ridiculous things.
Should she have brought that baby to her graduation? No. She shouldn’t have. All the negative attention she is getting, she brought it upon herself. It is not uncommon for women of all color to have children in their teenage/high school years and bring them to their graduation, but being she is black, of course people would focus on the negative. It is rather unfortunate.
I do not think it is fair that you attacked her for breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is the natural way to feed your baby. It is the purist thing for a mother to do for her baby. It is a beautiful thing. She is breastfeeding that baby, she promotes breastfeeding and I applaud her for that. Disregard the bottle.
There’s nothing absolutely wrong with this action for god sake, let the young lady be, she’s using her breast to feed her own baby and if you don’t like it mind your own business. Things like this are pretty irrelevant to the problems of the Black community all over which is Ignorance and poverty.
There is a time and place for everything and this is an inappropriate place to do it. So is doing it while you are driving or at a job interview. Shes not even wearing any clothes under the gown.
What does her being black have to do with it? First off I think it’s a bit tacky, not the breast feeding part but, for her graduation photo. Second do you think white women that breast feed their babies in a restaurant is being distasteful Tommy? You seem to only look for the negative in black women and this hate you seem to have is so deep that you can’t see or don’t want to see that tacky, disrespectful, ignorant folks come in all colors. I have never seen any other race put down their race of people the way black folks do. Granted we have our issues and they need to be talked about and dealt with but, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do it. I watch your videos on Youtube Tommy and I agree with some of the things you say and I share your anger at some of the things that you talk about but, again there are better ways to get your point across then calling black women Bitches. Which by the way, why are black women bitches and the few white women you do discuss called ” Snow queens”?
WOW!!!!!!
Ok…I have multiple stances on this…
Breastfeeding is beautiful? Why? It’s simply the natural function of a mother to provide the child nourishment. That’s it. It’s not art, it’s not a statement, it’s not fashionable. It’s natural. The only ‘beautiful’ thing about it is that people generally speaking are attracted to tits.
That being said, I think TJ’s so peeved about it because of just that. The young woman in the photo obviously did it ONLY for the attention. ONLY. There are any number of measures that could’ve been taken to prevent this…photo…including (but not limited to):
-Having the father watch the child during the ceremony (unless of course, he was involved in the same ceremony -_-)
-Family support (see previous example)
-Daycare
etc…
Now, if you’re saying, “what if she’s struggling and didn’t have…blah, blah, blah”, then ask yourself: What did she do during class? I’m sure she didn’t have her child with her 100%. Or how about work (assuming she does, because I like to give people credit)? What does she do with her child then? Does she just pop out her…belongings at her job as well?
The only way that I could see this as feasible is if all of what I just mentioned was 100% consistent and she, ALL THE TIME, breastfed her child with NO other option, ever.
Do I see breastfeeding in public as a bad thing? Of course not. Honestly, nudity never really hurt nobody (murder- someone is killed; theft- someone’s earnings are compromised; assault- someone is hurt; naked- ?). But there’s a time and a place for everything. If I had to take a piss during graduation, I’d excuse myself, not post it on Instagram in the middle of the ceremony. That is, unless I wanted the attention.
There have only had a few issues that I have wholeheartedly disagreed with Tommy on, and this is one. Tommy as well as all the negative commentators must have never breastfeed a baby or had their partner do so. Breastfeeding, much like graduating college, is an accomplishment. Some lucky women might be able to do so easily, but many are not. It can be days, weeks, sometimes even months of hard work. This is why many women don’t breastfeed, especially when they lack support and are constantly surrounded with stupid comments by ignorant fools. Perhaps this is why black women in particular, are underrepresented in breastfeeding rates.
So if anything, this picture goes against your usual stance, Tommy. This woman is not getting government assistance in the form of WIC, to have the ability to pawn her child on someone else to formula feed her. Breastfeeding is natural and the best thing she can do for her child. And a bottle–really? Like I said, you have probably never been around a breastfeed infant. Even those who will take a bottle (because some breastfeed babies refuse), will not likely do so when mom is present. So is the baby supposed to wait because people are uncomfortable? Grow up, it’s a breast, it’s purpose is to feed children.
And I don’t get the comments about it being an “inappropriate” time. There is never an inappropriate time to nurture your child. If you look at the background of the pic, there are several groups of people chatting and standing around doing their own thing. It clearly wasn’t a pivotal part of the ceremony.
This woman should be applauded. No matter the circumstances behind her having a child at this time (and I don’t know of many college students practicing celibacy–so judgement is unnecessary), she finished all the while putting her daughter’s needs first. This is truly an exception to your usual rhetoric of black women being the worst stewards of children. I see a beautiful moment that a proud mom is sharing with her baby girl. Kudos to her.
I don’t think anyone here is denying the hardships of breast feeding. Anything difficult is indeed worth the acknowledgement. However you’re creating a situation out of nothing.
Applause and attention whoring are two different things. A woman who can breastfeed can be acknowledged for her achievements without needing to breastfeed in front of an entire audience as part of, lets say, her graduating ceremony. There’s no excuse for this picture.
People shouldn’t have to tell fully-grown men and women to cover themselves. But this is what happens when people don’t understand the concept of self-respect. And indeed, there’s nothing necessarily “wrong” with a man walking down the street with his ass hanging out of his pants either. I dare you to say otherwise. It’s “natural” too.
Uh why would you do this,,?
Attention whores do weird things
Lol I mean why she do this? :/
In Trinidad women breastfeed in public all the time. The difference is its done either on the porch AT HOME or w/ a cloth to cover the child & breast. This chick takes a selfie of her doing AT A GRADUATION IN FRONT OF THOUSANDS & posted it for the world to see??? You all can not see that she is just a attention whore? Really????
Clearly it’s not a selfie since both of her hands are on her baby and visible in the picture. Seems like she was breast feeding her child and someone took her picture so she smiled because why should she feel ashamed?
clearly you don’t know black women in America
Wow, I dont know whats more tragic, The fact that she has a kid so young, or that she seems to think this is appropriate behavior.
Completely inappropraite venue
She may have graduated, but she should go back and learn a little common sense and maybe a little modesty. I can’t believe she doesn’t realize how bad she’s making herself look. Feel bad for the baby cuz that’s her mom. Poor baby.
I’ve pretty much agreed 100% with everything Tommy says but I have to disagree on this case. We don’t know the case of why she did this. The child may be one of those special children that do no take the bottle. I know this because much to my dismay, I had one. She just decided one day not to take the bottle and instead would scream. For hours. She just refused the bottle. Now I don’t know if this was the case with this baby but we don’t know all that. All I know is that she has a right to feed her hungry baby any way she sees fit.
Still love u tho Tommy
I don’t give a damn you idiot – You don’t understand the repercussions this sort of imagrey has on Black America!!!
First of all I was voicing my opinion to Tommy since he is who I follow.,,,I don’t give a fraction of a fuck what you think. Secondly, this imagERY (not imagrey YOU idiot) does not contribute anything negative to Black America because at least we are not seeing a twerking, angry, criminal Black woman….we are seeing a woman who went to school, finished and is providing care and nurture for her child.
It is my opinion and I’m not going to change it. I still listen and agree with most of what Tommy says but on this we are going to have to agree to disagree.
Stop being childish with the name calling…it takes away from whatever message you are intending to relay.
You’re a bitch and you’ve managed to write an entire paragraph saying NOTHING AT ALL!
Discontinue your viewership because you aren’t even absorbing any information! Clearly you value nothing he speaks about if you agree with this Woman’s actions.
Don’t pretend to be mature online because you are just another excuse maker that makes countless excuses for BW who can’t seem to abide by basic social decencies.
You need to log off you piece of shit, worthless negro. You don’t know me so based on my OPINION you think I’m a bitch? Because I don’t agree with you??? And who the fuck are you again??? The president of something? Anything? Do you control anything in your life? Do you have a woman or a family? Do you have nothing better to do than to get your dick hard and your blood pressure up over something a COMPLETE AND TOTAL STRANGER feels a certain way about? Are you retarded as well? Do you not understand what the word “OPINION” means?
So many questions and so little fucks given about your answer to any of
them. So there, you want immature, I can stoop to your level and do you
one better..
Your life, the violence in the ghetto & BLACK ON BLACK OR ANYBODY ELSE crime, the ratchet behavior, the opinions of all the white and other people and everybody else that hates black people…none of that changes because this woman breastfed her baby and somebody took a pic of it and posted it to the internet.
Love you still Tommy even though your site is filled with ASSHOLES like drift king kelchi!
And another thing shithead, if anybody should be questioned it’s the person who took the picture of this and put it up! We don’t even know if this woman wanted it to be out there like that. Fucktard! You want to do name calling, I can hang with the best of them…
I like the famous catch phrase, “You don’t know me!”
I bet you slammed your keyboard you are so mad that someone doesn’t agree with your “elite” opinion.
At the end of the day you are a “super lurker” AKA dickwad that has no life and can’t wait to get some baby mother pussy or if you are a female – receive some Madden King dick.
Why are you even watching Tommy if you don’t agree with a simple point like this – If you don’t even have the common decency to breastfeed in a private place nobody is going to hire you or invest in your company. Do you think the female CEOs of fortune 500 companies would be breastfeeding in public.
Don’t be a fucking idiot.
No…unlike yourself i have a life and also unlike yourself, i’m not retarded. Therefore I understand what the word opinion means and I understand that people are entitled to their own and everyone is not going to share mine.
I have a good black husband with a good black dick, thanks for your concern though.
I watch Tommy because he is interesting and brings up ton of great points and is a catalyst for good dialogue. He helps in the community and I think he’s a great guy. Tommy understands (unlike yourself) that everyone is not going to agree with every point he makes and he’s ok with that. That’s why I follow him and not you. You don’t have any followers. You don’t make videos like Tommy and if you do I’m sure no one bothers to watch.
Btw, try to come out of your little close-minded universe and realize that there are many different types of companies and owners. You don’t know who will or will not hire her because you are not any type of god or all seeing or all knowing being.
So with that, kiss my ass cause I am not expending any more of my fabulous, elite braincells fooling with you or your opinion.
Most of you all have never had to pay for formula.That shit is expensive if you don’t get WIC or some other type of assistance. Financially it makes since, and breast babies are healthier. This is how the man upstairs wanted it to be.
Excuses, excuses…It’s a fucking graduation she couldn’t spare $2 for formula JUST THIS ONCE?
I just don’t get it. Why do you negro bedwenches and coons for the White man constantly make EXCUSES for niggerish behaviors???
CAN’T YOU SEE THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT US TO DO?
And you wonder why Black unemployment is the highest! Fuck outta here!
Agree with you 1001%. With all the options available to find privacy she felt compelled to bust (pun intended) out a boob in public and feed her child. Now I KNOW it’s true: Inside the heart of many Black women there’s an Exhibitionist trying to get out, but I like Tommy’s label better: Attention Whore!
$2? Where are you buying 2 dollar formula at?
try $15 for a can that MAY last you most of the week.
you folks need to do your research before you post random comments like this
This photo is crazy….. She shouldn’t be feeding her child in public, She should of went to the bathroom or even to her car to feed her child. That’s just my opinion.
I wonder do you do the same when you become hungry? If not, then why should her child eat in a bathroom or a car? It’s so laughable how a breast being use for its true function got you unsettled.
Do you shit and piss on the sidewalk when you have to doo doo, or do you discreetly go in a stall. And if you do go in a stall, why? Its a natural bodily function. Do you screw privately in a bed? Why? Its a natural function, go boink on the lawn of a graduation ceremony, its appropriate, right?
She’s cute
She got class comin’ out ‘er ass!
What is more disturbing is how many people defend this woman’s actions and don’t care or shrug their shoulders…
Meanwhile who will be taking care of the child when the Father is most likely absent and no right minded employer would hire her?
There’s a time and a place for everything. I understand her child was hungry. With that being said; Why couldn’t she have pre made bottles for the baby? She knew she was graduating. When did having some decency and common sense become too uncommon?
WOW – the fact that this needs an explanation shows the sad lack of reasoning ability with some of the people here. If you can’t grasp the simple concept that there’s – A TIME AND PLACE FOR EVERYTHING – including breastfeeding an infant, then there isn’t a snowball’s chance in hell you will understand that what this woman did was wrong. There’s a reason folks we don’t have sex in public, why we have bathroom stalls, etc, etc, etc…because these activities should be done, here’s the word for the day – DISCREETLY. No one is knocking breastfeeding itself, just that she should have done it in private. When you consider there’s probably small children around it should be obvious that this be done in private, unless that is you’re a…here’s another word for the day – PERV!!!
Modesty is the word. she could’ve covered up her breast witha cover or something. There could’vebeen a million things shd could’ve done different.
it would have been more appropriate for her to have used a bottle but it is her choice to breast feed if she wants to or not. She could have even placed a towel or shawl over her shoulder so her breast wouldn’t have been exposed. I’m sure some persons at the ceremony were uncomfortable and it was inconsiderate of her to put a damper on her classmates special day. From my understanding its not illegal once the nipple is not exposed or covered.
Isn’t it presumptuous of you to assume that is not her hair?
8-/
You know , she could have gotten someone to babysit or something!!! I don’t know what state she lives in, but the last time I checked they didn’t stop selling baby bottles either!!!
You can put breast milk INTO a baby bottle. It was NOT necessary for her to do that at a graduation ceremony. Plain out no class, no modesty, and looks to be out for attention.
To me as a woman myself breastfeeding the baby is not the issue but the issue is breastfeeding the baby during a ceremony like this! It’s just senseless to me! I mean come on, women have been breastfeeding their babies millions of years ago and will continue to do so forever, but there is a TIME AND PLACE for somethings to be done! She could have prepared a bottle for the baby. Well I’m not surprised the rate most of these so-called modern women today are exposing themselves and claiming for today’s society to free them to be naked and expose their bodies that supposed to be covered is just crazy!! Women’s body is an art but to expose it unnecessarily is degrading and morally wrong. WTH is free the nipples or why do so many Hollywood women all of a sudden have to expose their breasts and their private parts, very very shameful and they all shall stand before a God that will judge and condemn them IF they don’t repent from their ways!!!
Funny how in Genesis, God saw no shame in Adam and Eve’s nakedness, they themselves became shamed after eating the fruit of knowledge of good and bad. What fruit did you eat today?
Just a little bit of food for thought.
Pretty representative of the average black woman imo. Not the graduating part. We all know that black women get into colleges over much more qualified Asians because of racial quotas an have access to financial aid and scholarships based on race that are specifically denied to Asians and Asian-Americans.
This should be shared between mother and baby in private. I do agree there is a time and a place for everything. There were many other options she could have chosen to feed her baby.
That shit is fucked up. No shame at all!
As my 94 year old grandmother stated while she was alive was this:
“I’m not going to lie, there was a lot of stuff we girls did that was not right for a lady to do, but the one thing mama and daddy make of think about and that was shame. A girl got pregnant from some man, daddy and his daddy made him do the right thing. Sometimes the girl got pregnant and then disappeared. Sometimes for a little while and sometimes for good, never to be seen again. But daddy and mama made sure we understood a thing or two about being shameful. Sometimes that was the thing that kept a girl from doing some stupid things.”
For the past 40 years, black women especially have been taught not to be shameful of any of their acts, because no one is perfect, and due to that no one should be shameful for what they do.
As my 94 year old grandmother stated while she was alive was this:
“I’m not going to lie, there was a lot of stuff we girls did that was not right for a lady to do, but the one thing mama and daddy make us think about and that was shame. A girl got pregnant from some man, daddy and his daddy made him do the right thing. Sometimes the girl got pregnant and then disappeared. Sometimes for a little while and sometimes for good, never to be seen again. But daddy and mama made sure we understood a thing or two about being shameful. Sometimes that was the thing that kept a girl from doing some stupid things.”
For the past 40 years, black women especially have been taught not to be shameful of any of their acts, because no one is perfect, and due to that no one should be shameful for what they do.
I think your grandmother captured the concept of this post perfectly.
It’s far more important than the actions of one woman.
What’s funny, is if she pulled them out and shook them all of you stupid fucks would be sitting behind your computers with your cocks in your hand, but since she’s being a good mother and nursing/nurturing her child it’s icky and wrong.
Yep, and normally happens is the chick who pulls them out and shakes them for all the world to see will get mega viewer hits, and probably more than quite a few sexual advances over the internet.
But strangely it is the women who don’t do it are the ones who at the end has a better chance of landing something that the booby shaker could not and that is a spouse.
And any woman who says she is not looking to become married is someone who has a diminished outlook on themselves. And no, she is not worthy of marriage because she will do everything in her power to destroy the privileges and securities in which a good supportive marriage should supply.
The most they are really good for is to lay and play with till something better comes around.
So dude, thank you for showing that you clearly don’t have the slightest idea on what a “good” mother is. If breast feeding constitutes good mothering skills to you, then you are the type of guy this and many more other women of this type likes to bring into their fold. A man who will see past all of their faults and tell them how much of a “Queen” they are no matter of much of a waste of airspace they truly are.
Does one shit and piss on the sidewalk when you have to do a doo doo, or do you discreetly use a private toilet stall? And if you do go in a stall, why? Its a natural bodily function, just like breast feeding, everybody has to dookie, right? Do you screw privately in a bed? Why? Its a natural function, go boink-a-rama on the lawn of a graduation ceremony, its appropriate! Just like brestfeeding during a graduation photograph. Natural=do any tastless act that the rest of us don’t want to see but have to put up with. Just caca on her lawn, to support natural functions that should be made public. Right? (Crickets chirping……)
The truth is hard to hear for a lot of people.
This comparison is just ridiculous. You can control yourself as a grown up. A child cannot control his hunger. Breastfeeding is protected by the law for a reason.
Here is my late contribution to this discussion:
I see absolute nothing wrong with this. My wife breast feeds and our child doesn’t like having the cloth over her head as she get’s agitated and has trouble latching on. Furthermore, at long events like graduations, it’s completely feasible that a mother can run out of expressed milk and the only option for her is to feed from her breast as she was designed to do. Infants need to be fed often and they adhere to no schedules set by outside institutions. I applaud this young woman on her success in education and the wisdom of choosing to feed her child naturally. Fortunately for me, my wife and I live together in Texas. It is against the law to ask a woman to cover up, leave an public establishment or in any way harass a woman for breast feeding in this state. Bravo!
Dude, that’s not what ANYBODY is knocking, or complaining about. We’re pretty much saying the baby will live 30 seconds on a pacifier while the woman snaps a non-hoodrat looking photo. 10 seconds even. See what I mean? Instead of looking at that picture and seeing her graduation accomplishments, everyone simply sees in that picture “God what a hoodrat, daaaayuuum”.
When my own child is hungry, like MOST infants, they will not be sated by pacifiers. Every parent knows this. My own daughter spits it out and cries louder until she receive sustenance from her mother. When my daughter gets too worked up over being hungry, again, it’s hard to get her to latch on the breast because the child becomes excited. No one here knows better than this mom when it’s best to feed her own child and she may have saved everyone a headache by feeding her daughter instead of having her baby disrupt the entire ceremony with her cries of hunger.
Oops wrong spot, but I posted back to you, take care dear.
I wrote answer to you in wrong spot above, take care dear.
My reply above, friend.
As most online discussions, this is pointless because the uneducated and stubborn will refuse to learn and consider a different position. I am really disappointed in Tommy for posting this without really researching it first. There is nothing specific to race here except than this woman is not like the usual under-educated, hood-rack, black woman that rarely breastfeeds because it is a difficult, self-less task. Please take a moment to realize how this photo might actually be a beautiful thing. It is no more revealing than a Victoria Secret ad and shows strong bond between mother and daughter–nothing to be ashamed about at all.
Mr J, I breastfead all my children, I know very well that babies like a soft little receiving blanky over thir head to feel warm and snuggled when nursing. But baby’s preference aside, I am maybe old fashioned, old school. I believe in women having some level of modesty, I just do and nothing will make me bare my “privates” in public. Did I wear sexy clothes at the club? Of course, but I never showed my privates for heavens sake. I don’t want my husbands “schlong” exposed and he would be pretty upset at showing men my boobs, that’s my generation’s attitude. I’m surprised you don’t care at men staring at your wife’s chest, most men are not that progressive. Baby can wait literally 2 seconds to snap the picture.
I am progressive. My wife is beautiful and stacked. Now that she is nursing, her ample breasts draw more eyes than ever before. Men will glance at her. Heck, they’ve been staring at her all of her adult life and as male, I get it and don’t fault men for being men. That’s part of being in public. For my own part, I grew up in a progressive household. Sex and nudity were not taboo and I’ve been exposed to breast feeding women for most of my childhood.
As for modesty, It’s the double standard all over again. I can take my shirt off in public for no reason at all but a breast feeding woman defies some nonsensical taboo. I don’t usually defend women’s issues but this one is the exception because I don’t want my wife tarred and feathered for feeding our child in public. We don’t know what the circumstances were for the young woman in this article, however, every scenario I mentioned is absolutely plausible and I wili gather to say, common. Tommy and many of the commenters here are being too hard on this young woman for this picture. She is not shaking a tiddy, she’s nursing her child. What could be more human than that?
“…make me wanna holler, the way we do our race….make me wanna holler, the way we do our race…” >drop that bass guitar<
Do you think Marvin would have ever thought that song would apply in the new century? To us still???
I agree this is inappropriate and I don’t know why and how they think this is OK.
Being a single teenage mother automatically elevates you to Queen status, not like the fuck-ups who didn’t go that route. Don’t you know that?
Why is she a Queen but not all the white AND black women who managed to graduate highschool without being an unwed teen mother. Jesus, Tommy is SO SO right, and Ms. Little proves it, having a baby out of wedlock automatically promotes you to Queen status. Do you know how retarded that sounds. Nobody is knocking breastfeeding, how about discretion and modesty, instead of putting your boobs in every man’s face because they WILL see “tit” and not “nurturing”. They’re men. :/
there is nothing that surprises me about a large number of black American women..No gutter low enough..When women lose sense of collective shame..,nothing good will come out of it…
wtf?
When I was young, the phrase “you have not shame” seemed to be a weak rejoinder. Now, I see it as a powerful comment. It won’t necessarily affect the person to whom it is directed, but the lack of shame is the beginning of the troubles of the world.
It does seem a bit on the attention seeking side because who photographs themselves breast feeding in public? Taking a picture holding your baby at your graduation, I can understand. Why not take the picture first which would have taken a good 5 seconds and then breast feed your kid?? Breast feeding in public is one thing, I’m not necessarily against that but photographing yourself doing it and then not taking steps to keep a picture like that confidential or atleast somewhat private is something else entirely. Attention seeking behavior in my opinion.
She should’ve had a family relative watch the child until after her graduation ceremony was over. Or did like I did when I used to Breastfeed my son and go in a private room or car to Breastfeed if theirs nowhere else to Breastfeed at. It’s too many freaks out here to be popping your boobs out for the whole world to see!
A mother can use a pump or formula for a couple of hours if necessary. Some people will do any and everything to draw undue attention to themselves. I suspect inappropriate behavior has become a culture.
My opinion, if the baby had to be fed then she had to be fed regardless of what was going on at that time. Maybe we ought to think about the welfare of the baby instead of that woman’s tit. However, I do believe the photographer could have waited or skipped her until she was done.
The baby is hungry and it is getting fed. No problem with that.
That was very unnecessary, and to take a picture- why?
So let’s get this straight:
– So you didn’t have a baby sitter to leave the baby during a Graduation ceremony?
– You didn’t prep milk for the baby KNOWING that you were going to a Graduation ceremony?
– You didn’t have RELATIVES that were there that you could have left the baby with a BOTTLE during the ceremony?
– You couldn’t EXCUSE yourself when you felt the need to breast feed because you didn’t want to prep a bottle(s) before the ceremony?
– YOU FELT NO WAYS to have your picture taken while breast feeding your child DURING the ceremony?
– YOU ACTUALLY POSTED THIS PICTURE on social media over all the other pictures that you could’ve posted instead?
I could keep going….but honestly, if these questions are not enough to prove to the black community that there’s a problem here…..I rest my case.
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